There's no doubt that interracial relationships have come into their own in the past few decades. Dating someone of a different race is no longer taboo (at least in most circles) and the idea has finally become so commonplace that most people don't even give an interracial couple a second look.
Of course, the ultimate goal is for interracial relationships to lose their distinction altogether, simply folding into the overall idea of “relationships” without the qualifier. We're nearly there, and that's a good thing, but for the time being there are still many people who have questions about the idea of dating someone outside of their race.
Take a look at these points. We hope they'll help to guide you along:
- There are no particular advantages to choosing a partner of a different race.
This statement comes directly from Deborrah Cooper, an author of advice columns for AskHeartBeat.com. The goal of any relationship should be to find someone with whom you're compatible and wish to spend your time with. It's great if that person ends up being someone of a different ethnicity, but it's not the best idea to prioritize race over compatibility.
- Interracial dating might not be the best idea for insecure people.
The reason? Insecure people are often seeking validation from other people, and since being in an interracial relationship may bring on judgment rather than approval, it's probably best avoided.
- There's a good chance someone's parents won't like it.
For all the progress that's been made, surveys still reveal that an alarming percentage of parents (up to 48% in some studies) would not approve of their child dating outside their race. If family is important to you or your partner, then angry parents might be a deal breaker.
- In most cases, there will be cultural differences.
Sometimes tolerance and open-mindedness goes so far that it makes us forget that while people are equal, they're not all the same. People of different races often have vastly different upbringings, beliefs, and cultural ideals. This can be a source of excitement in a relationship, but it can also be a source of hardship.
- It can be very rewarding, but expect to be challenged!
You don't really decide who you fall in love with. If it happens to be someone of a different race, then you should probably follow through. Just be aware that there are unique challenges to interracial dating which make something that's already kind of hard – dating – a bit more complicated. That doesn't mean you want make it...it just means you might have to work a little harder at it.
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